Barriers to Leaving

Why do victims sometimes return to or stay with their abusers?

There are major barriers to ending abusive relationships. Understanding these barriers can help victims stay safe and can help bystanders build better support systems for those experiencing abuse.

A person may stay in an abusive relationship for many reasons, including children, finances, provision of basic needs, love, and/or fear of leaving.

A person may try multiple times to end an abusive relationship, so it is important to remain patient, supportive, and non-judgmental. Check-in consistently, help the person stay safe, and assure them that they can count on you. Don't cut off support, and don't give up!